It all started when I watched it on Oprah. I had been struggling with a change in my professional career but the minute I heard what Rich and Yvonne were talking about, I knew I had to be a part of it somehow. I am a Psychologist and I love working with groups. I believe the group dynamics is what teaches us about whom we are and there is no better way than doing that than learning it from others. Others see in us what we don’t.
After the Oprah show finished, I immediately went to the internet and searched for Challenge Day. It was amazing. Everything I read about it had so much to do with me and my personal fight to end prejudice, teasing and bullying. I have had 20 years experience teaching and learning about peace education with an organization that deals with more than 60 countries but the message in Challenge Day and the Be the Change movement seemed a lot more real to me; so real that wonderful things started to happen in my life since I learned about Rich and Yvonne.
In the middle of so many drawbacks and fears and even despair sometimes it really feels as if someone else is watching over us… The first person who ever replied my messages to the Challenge Day office was Natalie. She has been what I call one of my very special angels throughout this incredible journey. She guided me, she answered all my questions and sent me material and most of all, she always, without any doubt, made me feel celebrated, special and empowered. I feel in my heart that Natalie is always there for me.
Natalie, then, introduced me to Maureen Fernand, a Spanish Language teacher who works with the Partner’s of the America organization, and is the VP of the Idaho chapter and who is also another angel in my prayers list, who has been such a generous, loving and dear friend – we have never even met or spoken to each other on the phone or even seen each other’s faces! Maureen has also helped me with so many more ideas I can use here in Brazil, since she has taken part in Challenge Day.
And then one day I found Rich on Facebook. I was so afraid to get in touch him but at the same time, so excited to see him there! I really thought he would never reply and think what kind of intruder was I? But, then, once again, I took the risk and I was blown away by his kind, quick and beautiful reply. From then on, Rich has also been there for me, all the time.
So, for the past 3 years I have tried, relentlessly, to tell people everywhere – schools, companies, universities – about my work, which is, in fact, an adaptation of what Rich and Yvonne have created in the US. The results I have had so far with all the activities and debates are unbelievable. I have seen miracles happen before my eyes. I have seen people forgiving and asking for forgiveness; I have had people come up to me and tell me such wonderful things I never, ever expected to hear. Most of all, there is no better feeling than the one I get when I see I am giving children, young kids and adults a chance to reach out and get to know each better, overcome their fears, break down barriers and learn to live in peace in their schools, communities and with their families.
So far in my city, over the last two years, I have worked with two schools (about 300 people) and several companies (about 250 people); I have given workshops to about 50 teachers. In the nearby area, I have reached about 3 very big schools (190 adults) and given workshops to 192 teachers.
This semester I am part of a project that will teach about 85 young people and grown ups to say no to bullying and teasing in a small public school. I have also managed to get workshop contracts in three other cities in my state and in the state of São Paulo. There is a very good chance I can take my work to more cities in the state of São Paulo, as well.
It has not been easy. And I really want to increase those numbers. In times of financial difficulties mixed with a career change, it is hard to get people to listen or believe in you. But I have decided that I will not give up. My work here will grow and I will continue to make a difference. I absolutely love what I am doing and every once in a while God sends me a different angel along the way, to give me courage and more strength and to make me see and remember that I am here in this world for a greater purpose.
I wish to thank everyone who has helped me. There are so many names…Just know you are all in my heart.
Thanks to Oprah as well, who sees the importance of what we do.
Milene Ferrazza Thomas
Psychologist, Group Dynamics Specialist
Londrina, Paraná, Brazil